It’s weird, I’d initiated this post last year and I dont’ remember the context! The title sure seems interesting enough for me to rethink and start a journey through my years of having gained wisdom and how I don’t like it so much!
These might sound like rants of the angst, but well, first hand learning!
People are weird – they don’t always say the truth, they dont’ always mean what they say, and they dont’ always say what’s on their mind.
Personally and professionally, this has been the most appalling thing I’ve come across. To believe in people, only to be let down and be disappointed.
Then I wonder if it’s too naive to continue to trust people, or should I become wise – once bitten, twice shy!
The quotes that are treated as lessons, aren’t just ‘quotes’, my favorite one, in this regard now, is ” Trust only those who stand to lose as much as you do, when things go wrong”
I’ve wanted to stay the Anne Frank way, to continue to believe people are really good at heart and not judge them
The other thing, is the realization of the impossible – the rise of practicality, with a dash of cynicism.
Whenever I’ve been told about something can’t be done, I’ve been obsessed with walking around the whole thing, to find a logical, reasonable solution to show HOW it can be done.
To reach dead ends, hits you hard. To realize that the obstacles standing in front of you are too big to really cross over, move around and/or penetrate through.
The first time you accept something as impossible, or not worth the effort, the first time you let go of something is when the maturation process starts!
And then when you see expensive mistakes, that you can’t undo. Just like a hand of poker, where you see in the final round, after raising the stakes rather high, that you can’t possibly win. The moment you realize that, the wise thing to do, is to fold. It’s not easy. It takes wisdom! And to get this wisdom, you need to lose a few hands.
I wasn’t born a pro!
Tagore, surely didn’t mean this when he said, “Perpetual giving up is the only truth of life”
So what are the times YOU’ve turned wiser, with a bad experience?